Disharmony in the Family Can Lead to Estate Bitterness

Jamie Ryke and Andrew Thav, Michigan Probate Attorneys • May 28, 2023

Sadly, we don’t have control over family disputes. Conflict can happen when family members have different views or beliefs that clash. With the Christmas holiday coming, these family disputes are often felt the hardest — more than any other time of the year. The holidays are a time for family togetherness, but they can also trigger the deep-seated resentment and animosity that is painfully felt in many families.

Conflict can happen when family members have different views or beliefs that clash. Sometimes conflict can occur when people misunderstand each other and jump to the wrong conclusion. Issues of conflict that are not resolved peacefully can lead to arguments and resentment. It is normal to disagree with each other from time to time. Occasional conflict is part of family life. However, ongoing conflict can be stressful and damaging to relationships. Some people find it difficult to manage their feelings and become intentionally hurtful, aggressive or even violent. Communicating in a positive way can help reduce conflict so that family members can reach a peaceful resolution. This usually means that everyone agrees to a compromise or agrees to disagree. Sometimes, strong emotions or the power imbalances that can be present in relationships are difficult to resolve and can only be addressed in a counseling situation.

One of the most common causes of family conflict revolves around matters of family inheritance. Money, money, money! But also, there can be issues surrounding who gets the parents’ home and who did mom want to get her precious jewelry collection. These family disputes become even more difficult to deal with when there is a contest made to the probate decision. This is because we can’t control whether relatives choose to contest the probate decision.

On our clients’ end, some ways to avoid bickering is to have a will & testament present and to get legal representation. Of course, we would also want them to have healthy communication among family members. As Michigan probate attorneys, we do our best to help and make sure the estate planning documents are done correctly to avoid conflict. Thav, Ryke & Associates will treat you like family in your time of need! For any questions or concerns, please contact us at 800-728-3363.

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